This post is for the overthinkers and the self-questioners. For those of us who get caught up in the fears of our mind and dismiss the feelings of our hearts.
Are you one of those people who struggle to know how to make difficult decisions? And how to make them confidently?
I certainly used to be. I was a hopeless overthinker and I was a person very much ruled by the rational, reasoning side of my mind.
It made making big decisions feel overwhelming and daunting. I’d make a decision and then just as easily talk myself out of a decision. I’d start wondering if I had made the “right” decision.
I’m very much a believer in trusting your intuition and your gut when making decisions (I have written about it here) – but what to do when your gut is all over the place, telling you different things from one moment to the next.
The Rule Of 10-10-10
I love Suzy Welch’s rule of 10-10-10. It is a profound and simple set of 3 questions that you can use to solve any personal or professional quandary you might find yourself in.
Here’s how it works. Everytime you find yourself in a situation where you feel unsure of what to do, what to choose, ask yourself these three questions.
What are the consequences of my decision in 10 minutes?
In 10 months?
In 10 years?
These three questions can be used to help make decisions for all spectrums of life. Small, questioning of priorities type decisions as well answers to more meaningful decisions in life like ending relationships, changing careers, moving overseas or interstate.
The answers will lead you to the most reasoned decision and prompt you to think beyond the short term pain of your choice and more to the medium and long term consequences or benefits of your decision.
The feelings that we are left having to live with in time, like regret, disappointment and unhappiness. Feelings that we so often don’t take into account when we are in the moment because making those big decisions feels scary, unknown and perhaps even a case of better the devil you know.
These three questions have been instrumental for me in making my own big decisions in my life. Nudging me to be honest about my priorities, highlighting potential regrets I would carry if I didn’t carry through with decisions or initiate certain conversations. Motivating me to also push through my own fears and guilt. Beyond what feels presently comfortable so as not to carry any regrets into my future.
More than anything the rule of 10-10-10 has helped me to learn that I prioritise living authentically and with enthusiasm over living a picture perfect life.
If you are interested you can purchase Suzy’s book here where she goes more into depth about this rule.
I’d love to know. What decisions will this rule help you make?