“You can absolutely grow through what you go through”
Hello! My name is Carla Da Costa and I am the law of attraction coach, author and founder behind The Women’s Wellness Movement. I live in Perth, Western Australia with my two daughters and am the author of an award winning collection of books the Living With Heart series. The books are much loved guides supporting women to create and live their best life possible from the inside out and were awarded life coaching book/product of the year for 2017/2018.
Four years ago I was a totally different person than I am today. Four years ago I was a stay at home Mum, newly separated, realising that I had to return back to the paid workforce to support myself, knowing that everything that was in my life now was about to change and not knowing how life was going to look for me in twelve months. I’d never had a bill solely in my own name. I’d never lived on my own.
And then there was dating… I’d been with the same man since I was twenty one. And here I was at thirty three ~ not even sure who I was anymore or what I wanted for myself other than it to be different than what I’d just said goodbye too. Twelve years with the one person…it made me feel hesitant and unsure about putting myself back out there.
The truth is that if myself from four years ago came to my house, knocked on the door to visit me she would be blown away. She’d wonder where I got that glint in my eye, how my outlook got so positive and happy, how the heck I was financing this house and this life, how I managed to bags the guy I’m dating and for him to be the one punching above his weight (he totally is 😜).
She’d put down that milky latte and snack she was eating out of habit because she was tired and needed the caffeine and sugar to get through the day, and she’d take herself back to the Pilates studio that she’d let herself fall out of love with because she’d see that she had put everyone else’s needs above her own for long enough.
I’ve learnt that change starts by taking baby steps, every single day even when it feels challenging. And it’s sustained by holding onto a vision that is wonderful and true for you- no matter the distractions that sometimes happen.
Pilates, music, travel, sunshine and my family lift my spirits. I’m really into having a close, tight circle of friends. I’m certainly loyal, my close people don’t chop and change. I love and am drawn to down to earth, genuine souls from all walks of life. I’m not judgey. I’m forgiving to a fault. I have an easy laugh- including at myself. I am open but value my own privacy. Most definetly I’m a big-hearted, open hearted and a wear my smile on my sleeve kind of girl. And I don’t change- I am the same person with everyone I meet.
I’ve been single, married and divorced. I’ve dated. I’ve taken time away from dating to learn to be comfortable with me. I have experienced depression, anorexia and obsessive compulsive disorder. I spent six months of my early adolescent life in an adult psychiatric hospital recovering from the above three and thankfully have stayed recovered for over twenty years. If there is a defintion of what living in your head over you heart looks like when it goes completely off course, that experience would be it.
I’m always motivated and learning. I’ll always believe in putting my best foot forward but now I equally embrace my femininity, my needs, my desires, my intuition and my softer intimate side. And I know that when I do that, what is right for me presents itself when it’s meant to. There’s no make it happen anymore, I let it happen.
My desire is to see women glowing from the inside out and living a life that embraces us for who we are, before we are anything else to anyone else; a woman.
I know I’m a better everything – lover, Mother, friend, daughter, when I prioritise myself as a woman first.
There are practices that keep you healthy, radiant, positive and shining from the inside out and I am hugely passionate about them.
Exercise, being outdoors, laughter, good food, time with my girlfriends, meditation or quiet time, open heartedness and a willingness to grow, love, make mistakes sometimes and learn fast are mine. Follow me here long enough and you’ll hear about them all!